


What is the "Yes, But..." Method?
For every “yes” that you hold (e.g. Yes - I want to start budgeting, Yes - I want to get organised, Yes - I want to learn Spanish) that you keep on saying that you want, but don’t seem to be able to actually make happen, there is almost always an unaddressed, often unacknowledged “but” that’s standing in your way.
For example:
➔ Yes, I want to budget, BUT I don’t want to stop enjoying my life.
➔ Yes, I want to eat a healthier diet, BUT I don’t want to think about food 24/7.
➔ Yes, I want to tidy consistently, BUT I don’t want to spend the whole weekend cleaning my house.
The “Yes, But...” Method is a 5-step process designed to make finding your "buts" easier, and dissolving them feel possible.
This method is for you if...
💫 You can reflect, imagine or visualise. Think: If I read fiction, do I struggle to feel in response to my imagination? If I'm asked to "revisit a memory" can I do that if needed? This isn't strictly needed, but it will help.
💫 You’re open to the idea that sometimes you need emotional buy-in when it comes to your goals vs another step-by-step plan.
💫 You are able to notice your thoughts and feelings with relative ease. Think: If I sit in silence, do I find it easy to notice thoughts and feelings as they pass?
It might not be for you if...
❌ You can't notice your thoughts and feelings just yet. If you’d like to develop this ability, I’d recommend starting with Dan Siegel’s Wheel of Awareness practice.
❌ You find achieving goals pretty easy and don't usually have much "inner conflict" when it comes to your goals. Girl, this isn't for you!! Live your beautiful life!
